Accepting the Homemaker Role

Homemaking is a tough role that’s not readily accepted or appreciated today. Especially when our culture tends to imply that it’s an archaic, demeaning, subservient, sacrificial, and servitude position that one succumbs to when entering a marriage relationship. It may feel that way somedays. It can be a demanding job that often yields little recognition, respect or reward. Sadly, the pre-conceived notions and contradicting perceptions proclaimed in society can cause confusion and conflict in the hearts of homemakers today. However, homemaking is here to stay whether we accept it or not.

It doesn’t matter if we have careers inside or outside of our homes; homemaking is a large part of our lives. After all, homes don’t run themselves. Somebody has to do it whether we hire help or do the work ourselves.

Accepting the Reason

We often joke that men couldn’t make it without women. Actually, God never intended for us to do life alone. In fact, He created Eve specifically to be a companion and help to Adam. That was His plan from the beginning.

The Hebrew word found in the Strong’s Concordance defines the word “help” in this passage as “aid” and includes the root definition “to surround and protect.”

God meant for us to aid our husbands with these family responsibilities. We have the ability to do things alone if needed, but He meant for us to work in harmony.

Accepting the Role

“Homemaker” is defined in the Merriam-Webster (Online, 2021) Dictionary as: “one who manages a household especially as a spouse and parent.” This role is nothing to take lightly or be ashamed of. Management is no easy job. Just look at the things the Proverbs 31 woman did to manage her home:

• cared for her husband
• made home-goods
• provided food and clothing
• bought property
• planted a garden
• exercised
• shopped
• helped the poor
• spoke wise and kind words
• ran a business

She was a busy woman but her role as homemaker came first.

Accepting the Responsibilities

Homemaking is not a “one apron fits all” proposition. It’s your home. You don’t have to excuse or defend how you run it. You don’t have to keep up with or compare yourself to others. You can only do what best meets your family’s needs with the resources you have available.

We may not like the title, the duties or the pay. We may need help. But, we can’t run from the responsibilities. It takes a lot of determination and dedication to manage a household and it really only matters what God thinks about how we run it.

Homemaking is not a responsibility to take lightly or for granted. It should not make us feel inferior. As women, wives, and mothers, we can accept this role with true grit and grace. God planned things this way for a reason. Our culture may not see it as important but watch what happens when it doesn’t get done.

Bring It Home

How do you feel about being a homemaker? Do you accept it as God’s plan?

Praying for you as we grow together,

Smiles, BRC

P.S. HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my SWEET SIS who inspires me to be a creative homemaker. LUV U GURL!